Will Snoring Destroy My Relationship?.

Will Snoring Destroy My Relationship?.

It was initially a minor annoyance. But after months and months of this, my husband's nightly snoring fest is starting to take its toll—–and not just in terms of getting a good night's sleep.

Did you know that snoring affects 90 million adults, with 37 million of them snoring on a regular basis, according to the National Sleep Foundation? According to Joseph Scianna, MD, co-director of Loyola University Health System's Nasal Sinus Center, benign snoring affects roughly 30% of adults over the age of 30, and is caused by "upper airway turbulence" that causes vibrations of the soft palate and the uvula (that little flap that hangs down at the back of the throat).

Middle-aged and older men are the most common snorers. (I can attest to this.) It's understandable that snoring gets worse as we get older because we lose muscle tone all over, including in our palates, which become flabby and thus more susceptible to vibration. Allergies, being overweight, and even drinking alcohol before bedtime, which relaxes the muscles in the airway, can all contribute to snoring.

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Snoring, whatever the cause, is inconvenient and damaging to relationships (I can attest to this).

It began almost a year ago and has become our nightly routine: I fall asleep and am abruptly awakened an hour or two later by the sound of my husband's loud and crescendo snoring. At first, I would reach over and give him a shove to disrupt his snoring pattern, and he would stop. Then it took several punches throughout the night to get the same result.

I complained at first, then begged, “Can't you do something about your snoring?” After a few weeks of nagging, we began experimenting with some well-known snoring remedies. I purchased new, firmer pillows.

Positions were ineffective (he snores on either side, on his stomach and on his back). To lose a few pounds, he has returned to exercising and watching what he eats. My husband experimented with nose strips. I experimented with earplugs. (They were both quite uneasy.) My husband's doctor referred him to a sleep specialist to see if he had sleep apnea (which he did not). A mouth guard was recommended by the sleep specialist. While the mouth guard helped with the snoring, it completely messed up my husband's bite, so no mouth guard for him now. We even experimented with essential oils that are said to help with snoring. Nothing has made a difference.
We've only found one solution so far: sleeping in separate rooms. Two bedrooms and three beds have become available as a result of being empty nesters. Whoever is the first to go to bed gets to choose where they want to sleep. I enter my no-snore zone, close the door behind me (I can hear the snores from down the hall if I don't), crawl under the covers, and drift off to a peaceful night's sleep. And I'm rested, happy, and ready to take on the day when I wake up in the morning. I have no objections to sleeping in different bedrooms as long as it keeps husband-wife relations interesting.
My husband had never heard of       until recently. And I'm happy to report that it's working for my husband.

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Sleep Tight Mouthpiece