When faced with failure, follow these 7 steps to recover.
Failure is unavoidable in life. It's how you deal with them, though, that determines whether you succeed or fail.
Everyone deals with failure in their own unique manner, although some techniques are more effective than others. So, the next time you drop a big fail bomb, here's how to deal with it in a healthy, self-serving manner.
1. Face Your Emotions Rather Than Ignoring Them
If you've just had a major hashtag fail, your first inclination could be to seek comfort from the unpleasant feelings that follow. Unfortunately, this can develop in harmful ways such as binge drinking or stress eating in an attempt to numb your feelings.
However, suppressing your sensations in this manner does not eliminate them; it just delays them while causing harm to your body and mind. This, however, makes you even less capable of dealing with your failure.
Find a more upbeat approach to deal with it. Healthy coping mechanisms are beneficial rather than harmful. It might take the shape of meditation or writing in a diary. Physical activity, in my opinion, is the cure for just about every type of mental discomfort! The increase in confidence you get after a sweaty workout will help you approach your sentiments with a fresh perspective, which will help you deal with the consequences.
- Take full (proportionate) responsibility for your actions.
It's possible that your failure will necessitate some damage control. Accept responsibility for your failure and do everything you can to resolve any issues that resulted from it.
Some individuals create excuses to absolve themselves of responsibility, but this isn't helpful to you or anybody else. It just jeopardizes your credibility and reduces your chances of future success.
Those who believe their failure is the end of the world and feel stigmatized by it are on the other extreme of the scale. But berating yourself for a failure isn't going to assist anyone.
If an apology is required, then please do so. However, you must next devote your efforts to taking whatever corrective actions are required to resolve the problem. Try to look at failure as a chance to bounce back with style!
- Change the word "failures" to "steps."
We're taught from a young age to be afraid of failure and to avoid it at all costs. We have this illogical idea that if we fail at something, we will never succeed at it again.
This viewpoint, however, could not be farther from the reality.
Every single failure is incredibly valuable. It's a chance to learn from others' mistakes and gain a better knowledge of what works and what doesn't.
So, rather of viewing failure as the worst thing that could ever happen to you, think of it as a teacher who is guiding you to success.
“I didn't fail 1,000 times,” said Thomas Edison. The light bulb was a 1,000-step invention.”
So rename your failures to reflect what they truly are: stepping stones to success
- Use it to Strengthen Your Resilience
Did you know that in order to grow muscle, you must first cause some harm to it? You cause microscopic rips in your muscles when you lift weights or undertake a physical activity you're not used to, which is why you're sore the next day.
However, those muscles will regenerate and become stronger than before.
Failure is similar to lifting weights in terms of mental toughness. Building your resilience can help you prepare for even bigger difficulties later in life.
For example, if it weren't for the resilience I developed during years of failures in the corporate sector, I would not be able to withstand the emotional rollercoaster of a freelancing business.
Failure frequently teaches us something. Even if it doesn't, there's still room for improvement.
- Turn Down the Volume
Our shortcomings can sometimes have an impact on others. However, as long as your failure has no moral ramifications, you should ignore what everyone else is saying.
If someone is deliberately attempting to make you feel awful about your failure, understand that the only reason they would do so is to make themselves feel better. Critics that are unconstructive always originate from a position of insecurity.
This type of noise can even originate from our own friends and relatives. They may be well-intentioned, but they might make you feel even worse about your failure.
Never allow anybody make you feel less than you are, no matter what their intentions are!
- Keep in mind that you are human and that everyone makes mistakes.
You wouldn't be human if you didn't fail. We're all guilty of it. It is something that we must all do. Just keep in mind that most people are quite excellent at disguising their flaws.
Try Googling "successful individuals who failed" to put this in context. There are 490 million results and many anecdotes about notable people who failed repeatedly before succeeding:
- Keep moving forward and don't give up.
According to one research, 92 percent of the population fails to meet their goals. But do you know what the remaining 8% of the population never does?
Don't give up.
The most crucial step in dealing through your setback is to move on and not give up. If you've completed all of the preceding stages, it'll be much simpler to let go.
Remember that coping with failure successfully isn't about denying your feelings; it's about reframing your viewpoint, regrouping, and trying until you achieve.
Because, as the renowned writer Elbert Hubbard phrased it so eloquently, "there is no failure unless you stop trying."